I went out with a really nice guy on Friday. We’d been talking for a week, and it seemed like we should get along just fine. There are so many things we have in common. We both share a love of music – even musical theatre. Our favorite broadway show was the same. We enjoy the same types of movies. The same TV shows. We made each other laugh very easily.
It all seemed too good to be true.
But when we met… it fizzled. There was no spark. It was awkward and strange. I knew immediately that, while he would make a great friend, there’s no way we could ever date. And I felt so bad for feeling it. He even brought me flowers, for crying out loud.
I keep running through my head what happened. He’s not a bad looking guy. His personality is great. Is it really possible for two people to have too much in common? Enough that it ruins any chance of chemistry or sizzle? I think it is.
Don’t feel bad about it because he brought you flowers. Any decent guy should bring flowers to a first date, in my opinion. Maybe not roses or anything, but some type of flower. But maybe I’m just old fashioned.
I’ve wondered about things like that often. I have dated a number of pretty, smart, fun women. But there was nothing there. I would ask myself over and over, am I afraid of commitment? Am I too choosy?
When I met my wife, those questions left me quickly. I honestly believe, and have some data to support (if you are interested), that we can’t help it. There are physical attractors that we respond to, and they may have nothing to do with what we have as a societal definition of beauty. It just happens sometime. We can choose to ignore them, and perhaps some people are successfull in doing that.
We are best to just go with the flow. If the flow is telling you no, then you don’t go.
LOL.
anyway, don’t feel bad. Just be honest to both of you. I know you will anyway.
Yay! Comments!
Thanks, to both of you.
Tech – I agree. Sometimes there’s spark, sometimes there’s not.
An electric charge is essential.
…either that, or lots and lots of cash.
You should just go for a great kiss anyway. Sometimes weird expectations or fears can get in the way. But one good smooch should either clear up the weirdness and make you laugh or ???…something!?
Sadly… I didn’t *want* to. You know? There are just some guys you want to kiss… and some guys you don’t.