So the object of my affection is no longer speaking to me.
I don’t get it. Why would someone tell me that they ONLY want friendship (repeatedly… and then get upset with me when i’m “too clingy,” reinforcing the point)… and then when I finally take them at their word and move on… said person gets upset enough that he doesn’t speak to me anymore.
Am I the only one confused by this behavior?
OK, time for sad truths.When this sequence of events unfolds, the most likely interpretation is: the other party never really liked YOU all that much, they liked what you DID for them. It stroked their ego to feel desirable, to be the object of attention, to be pursued. They would never want that pursuit to end, either in terms of being ‘captured’ or being abandoned as a romantic interest. They would prefer a perpetual source of attention and romantic interest that never led to any real obligation, obligation that would then turn the main focus away from a single party (themselves) toward a greater whole (a couple, with a future?)I don’t claim to be a psychic or an expert on relationships, but people who really wanted to have an authentic (if platonic) ‘relationship’ would not bail on another person the moment the romantic interest faded. So it seems obvious they never wanted an authentic relationship. Which means, frankly, that they are unworthy of anyone who does desire authentic relationship.Just my two cents of unsolicited and presumptuous advice….SH
Scott is right. You were a gift to said object, someone who brought [object] some joy, some warmth. Who wouldn’t have wanted your affection? Of course [object] did. You gave the gift….
Somewhat like the movie title based on the book with the same name (which I have not yet seen, but plan to), “He’s just not that in to you.” [Object] wishes that you would keep giving, though. Who wouldn’t enjoy that kind of loyalty?