Irrational? Maybe.
Feb 16th, 2008 by Amanda
I feel like my roommate is ashamed of or embarrassed by me. She has a guest staying this weekend, and while he’s around she won’t really talk to me or even look at me. Earlier today she mentioned that they might go see Enchanted again tonight. I made plans with another friend of ours to go see it and invited them along since I knew they wanted to go anyways.
They said no.
I don’t get it. Am I really that much of an embarrassment?
Is this he a potential romantic flame? Maybe she just wants it to be the two of them. I know, it sucks. But you would not want to be a 3rd wheel anyway.
It’s OK to be irrational as long as you don’t treat your shot-in-the-dark guesses as the final word, and are willing to discard them when better options come along*.In this case, I’d be a tad surprised if your housemate was embarrassed about you. Other possibilities include:1) She’s embarrassed about her guest2) She just likes keeping her different friendship groups as separate as possible3) She’s distracted while her guest is around, and you’re reading too much into itKeep thinking about it, and try not to let your paranoia run too wild :)* If skeptics had a credo, this would be it.
Good grief, it deleted all my linebreaks? That’s just scary.
It shouldn’t delete your line breaks if you hit enter TWICE instead of once.
And you’re probably right. I’m just a paranoid old bat sometimes.
Hey, it’s not paranoia if they really are out to get you :) Just… don’t give your beliefs more credence than they merit.Oh, and be wary of confirmation bias, placebo effect, etc. All these things have analogues in human relationships.
Sounds like she has romantic feelings for him to me.
I have to agree– girls are strange beings and tend to react differently when a guy’s around. Even if the guy is just a friend.Take some time after he leaves to see if you can find out what’s really going on.
People don’t know how to mix their 2 worlds. They are afraid of their worlds colliding.
She has a friendship with you (work, too?) and then this other life that has cropped back up. It’s like the Seinfeld episode with Goerge, who was engaged and responsible, not wanting that George to walk through the door and ruin “Independant George’s” life.
Once a person matures (your roommate is young, right?) all the worlds will flow together. She just doesn’t know how to handle it right now.