Bold? Or comfortable?
Oct 28th, 2007 by Amanda
So I was just incredibly bold (for me) with a guy (S, of course). We haven’t talked since Tuesday, but I saw him both yesterday and today. My two best friends just bought a house, and he’s doing some electrical work for them. I was helping with some other stuff (mostly just keeping my friend company:) ). And he acted all weird. Yesterday he barely spoke two words to me, and tonight he would always look the opposite direction every time he saw me. The one time we actually made eye contact and he said hi, he had that deer in the headlights look.
It was silly.
So I called him. And I actually got to talk to him (shocking, really). And I told him I had two things to tell him. The first was that he shouldn’t be weird around me. He kind of laughed in that way that tells you that they know exactly what you’re talking about. I told him he did it yesterday and today and that everytime he saw me he looked in the other direction like he was scared of me or weirded out. He admitted it was true, and I told him to stop it. He laughed and said he could do that. The second thing I told him was that we should hang out some time because I don’t want to date him (well I do, but that’s beside the point). That didn’t really make sense, did it? Basically, I told him that we need to hang out and be friends. We need to have fun together. We need to get to know one another. I told him that I wasn’t running around thinking Oh he likes me, I want to date him! I want to be his friend and get to know him. I think I said some other stuff, but I don’t really remember it. But he agreed with me and told me he was glad that I was spelling it out for him.
I still can’t believe I was bold enough to tell him those things. That’s something that I wouldn’t ordinarily do. But I really like this guy, and I feel really comfortable when I talk to him.
But I don’t know if that’s really a good thing or not.
It is called being twitipated my dear. You are diggin the guy, and it is all normal.
Have you watched Bambi lately? That is where twitipated comes from in case I am the only adult who watches kids movies.
Have fun with it, enjoy it. If the magic happens then have fun. If not, be friends.
Of course I’m twitterpated. But I’ve never been one to be bold when I’m twitterpated. I usually become incredibly quiet (meek?) because I’m too afraid of what the other person will think!
Of course… this past summer has taught me a lot about not being a people pleaser.
Who cares what the other person thinks. Be yourself. The new you is pretty bold, let’em see it.
Hey Amanda - I think what you did was great. Guys can be just as shy as girls can and I don’t think it’s fair to always expect them to initiate things. I initiated my current relationship exactly the same way (i.e. I told him I wanted to get to know him better but not date, and let things progress), and we’re still together 3 years later. When you’re comfortable enough around someone to be bold (male or female), then it’s a good sign to begin with.
Anyhoo, random of me to comment, but I admit that I am a lurker