Missed Out on Love?
Oct 19th, 2007 by Amanda
Do you ever look back on decisions you’ve made and wonder if you’d only made a different choice then you’d have the life you should have rather than the craptastic life you do have?
I read an article today about why women shouldn’t watch romantic movies. It was dead on. They make you want something that doesn’t exist! My whole life I’ve always thought that if I just had someone to love who loved me back, then I would be happy and could get through anything.
Twenty-five years (almost) of singleness doesn’t do much to detract from that notion.
I’ve been in love once in my life. And I still think about the guy from time to time, and I can’t help but thinking that if I had done something a little differently, then he would be the love of my life. But he’s not. In fact, I seriously doubt that I ever cross his mind these days. But he definitely crosses mine. And when he does, I settle back and imagine… Imagine if things had worked, and I was married. Imagine if I had kids. That’s the stuff dreams are made of. At least for me.
Have I missed out on love? Perhaps. I may be destined to remain single for the rest of my days. But maybe not. Dreams do come true sometimes.
single for the rest of your life?…..I know that when you’re single, it seems that way–but I doubt you’ll be single for the rest of your life.
It’s hard sometimes, in church, where so much focus is put on marriage and family. I remember thinking that if I heard one more sermon about relationships, raising kids, or finding “Mr. Right”, I was going to vomit. “Hey what about us singles? Are we chopped liver?”–that used to be what I was thinking!
amanda,
not sure if this helps at all but…
you don’t really count all 25 years of your life as single hood. I mean, were you really missing out when you were 10? (you didn’t go to school in maine right?). Even 15-18, how many people really have their high school relationships last their lifetime? you hear about it but its rare.
So, while I have no doubt that your singleness is making you suffer in some respect, 7 years of single hood is truly pretty normal these days. I got married when I was 36.
Perhaps its different for a man? I dont know. All I know is that you are young, pretty cheery and have a good head on your shoulders.
If you are the person you want to be, someone will love you for who you are. If you are not the person you want to be, how can anyone know who you are? Love your self first, so that other people can too.
(not my most sensitive post, it sounded better in my head)
-tech
I promise, long term singlehood isn’t bad once you get used to it…
The difference in me and you is that you’ve seen both sides of the fence. For me the grass is always greener on the other side - at least until I get to experience that other side.
LOL amanda,
I guess I jumped the fence twice (actually three times, over, back, and over again). All I can say is that its far better to be single than married to the wrong person.
I wish only one jump for you.
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